Got kids? Got a job? Got a life? Also got a burning need to write a novel?
Yeah. Me, too.
Got a problem? Yeah. Me, too.
In the two years prior to the birth of my oldest child, I’d published three romance novels, dozens of magazine articles, and a non-fiction book on figure skating, while working a full-time job. In the four years following the birth of my oldest child, I published one romance novel, one non-fiction book on figure skater Sarah Hughes, two soap opera tie-ins, and four mystery novels. By the time the third child came along, seven years after the first, I was down to one soap opera tie-in and one final, murder mystery. And it was certainly no mystery to anyone why my output had dropped so precipitously.
It took a lot of trial and error (and crying over spilled breast-milk on a computer key-board) before I even began to figure out how to balance the mothering with the mystery, the toddler with the typing, and the wailing with the writing.
However, three kids in, I can honestly say that I’ve managed to work out a few “Working Mom Tricks For Writing a Novel in Your Free (!) Time,” which I am eager to share with those interested in forgoing trivial matters like eating, sleeping, and the facade of sanity all in order to indulge that elusive muse and squeeze a satisfying writing side-dish on to an already overflowing platter.
Trick #1: Think First: In Stanley Kubrick’s film, “The Shining,” aspiring writer Jack Nicholson goes ballistic when wife Shelley Duval interrupts him with the excuse, “I didn’t hear you typing, so I thought you weren’t working.”
“Just because you don’t hear me typing,” Jack roars back, “Doesn’t mean I’m not working.” (And then he goes on a killing spree. Just ignore that part.)
Because the homicidal lunatic has a point.
“Writing” is the act of actually sitting at a keyboard and tapping keys to produce words that might one day form sentences and then actual, coherent thoughts. “Writing,” is an act that can and often is interrupted by someone wanting to sit on your lap and visit, “Noggin.com, please!” (hopefully your child and not your boss), as well as by someone asking you to watch their phone while they pop out to lunch with their latest girl-friend (hopefully a co-worker and not your husband).
“Working” on the other hand, consists merely of thinking about what you’re going to write, and thus can be done while driving, washing dishes, doing laundry, making beds, giving baths, standing in line at the grocery store, packing lunches, showering, breast-feeding, pushing a carriage, standing on a subway platform, cooking, and even while reading “The Cat in the Hat” for the umpteenth time, since you probably can do the whole thing on auto-pilot by now.
The best part is, “working,” works. You don’t have to be in front of a computer to think about a scene, to decide what you want it to be about, where you want to set it, how you want each character to approach it, and where you need it to lead. Remember reading “The Cat in the Hat” until you can trill it by heart? Playing the same scene in your head over and over again, polishing the dialogue, the structure, picking just the right word to describe a key plot point makes it much, much easier to maximize your precious computer time once you do get the squatters off your lap.
Trick #2: Skip Lunch. And on-line solitaire: The law mandates that every employee receive a one-hour lunch every day. The law does not mandate what you can or should do with it.
Look at that computer on your desk. It can be used for reports and spreadsheets and schedules. It can also be used for writing your book. In your free time.
What free time? Well, there’s lunch for a start. A good hour to sit in relative silence and get your thoughts together – on paper, no less!
Plus, let’s be honest, here: Lunch aside, how much of those seven other hours at work do you use for getting the job done, and how many are spent playing solitaire, surfing the web, chatting with co-workers and forwarding e-mail jokes and petitions?
That’s all prime writing time. No one is suggesting shirking your duties and risking your job. But, if you’re going to take breaks anyway, why not get your high from writing instead of caffeine?
Trick #3: Write Longhand: Even the most lightweight laptop is a tricky thing to schlep to the playground or Gymboree. However, a notebook and pen fit easily into the most crowded diaper bag (strong suggestion: attach the pen to the notebook or you’ll loose both in the Desetin Depths). Write longhand while you’re sitting on a bench at the playground. Write longhand while you’re standing and rocking a stroller with your foot. Write longhand while breastfeeding and while waiting for your pasta to boil and while waiting outside of my “My First Karate Class.” The best part is, entering your text into the computer later will give you the chance to revaluate your work with a fresh eye, fix those mistakes made on the first go around and, best of all, also counts as an official second draft i.e. you’re that much closer now to a polished manuscript!
Trick #4: Get Your Kids into the Act: Experts say that reading to your children is the best thing any parent can do to bond, raise IQ and otherwise earn their Mother-of-the-Year stripes. Sure, toddlers and up would probably rather hear “Winnie the Pooh” than “Mommy’s Work in Progress.” But, can an infant really tell the difference?
Nothing gives writers a better idea of whether a scene, especially one featuring lots of dialogue, is working, than reading it out loud. It can be an ego-crushing experience as you realize that the brilliance you heard in your head doesn’t quite match the drivel you seem to be articulating now… but that which does not kill you gets you ready for more editorial rejection later on. And that’s a good thing. Probably.
So grab that baby and that manuscript and read it out loud until the prose finally shines. Or your infant is old enough to start requesting a different title.
Then start again with the next book – and the next child.
Alina Adams is the New York Times’ best selling author of soap opera tie-ins, mysteries, and romances, including Annie’s Wild Ride and When a Man Loves a Woman. She has turned her Figure Skating Mystery series, Murder on Ice, On Thin Ice, Axel of Evil, Death Drop and Skate Crime into enhanced e-books with skating videos embedded alongside the text. Her latest project is Counterpoint: An Interactive Family Saga, a romantic serial where readers guide the development of the story. In addition to converting her own backlist, she has produced enhanced e-books for others, including Dan Elish, whose middle-grade fantasy novel, The Worldwide Dessert Contest, now includes its own original musical score. Learn more at http://www.AlinaAdamsMedia.com.
13 responses to “The working mom’s tricks for writing a novel in your free time, by Alina Adams”
I have a two-year-old squatter in my lap even now! Love these tips. Especially #1- thinking. It’s something I’ve only just realized myself- what a huge part of the process it is. Some of my best ideas have come while cleaning house or cooking dinner. I have three children and babysit full-time during the summer. But, my goal is to have a polished manuscript before the summer is over. I forsee lots of time writing by hand while the kids eat popcicles and play softball. Thank you both.:)
You’re very welcome!
This is inspiring, Alina…thanks for showing us that we can raise children and write at the same time!
Well, I didn’t say either the kids or the manuscript would turn out perfect in the end, LOL! 😉
Thanks Alina & Karen. I’m always looking for tips on how to balance a toddler and writing.
” (And then he goes on a killing spree. Just ignore that part.) >>> that made me laugh! 😀
Well, I have no children at home – all grown – and far away with my grandchild *sniffle* – – but, this is wonderful advice still for all those distractions that heap up and pile on my pea-head and laptop and et cetera!
Thanks to everyone who stopped by, love hearing from you!
Kat – yeah, just because I don’t have kids at home, doesn’t mean I’m not distracted…I see a squirrel outside, I get distracted! 🙂 I have checked back a few times to check on comments, and Alina seems to be taking care of all that for me today. Dream guest blogger you are, Alina! Thanks!
What a delightful and enjoyable and practical piece, Alina. Like Karen, I don’t have children at home, but boy howdy do I ever get distracted easily. I’m trying to train my wonderful husband (who, thankfully, loves to share things with me spontaneously) not to just pop into my office and start talking, thereby derailing me completely.
Mothers of the world, unite and write!
I like to tell people, “Unless there is blood or fire, it’s not an emergency.” As such, it can wait. Just like any other career or job, we have to set limits on our “creative writing time.” If I’m in the zone, I don’t answer the phone or the door.
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Some great advice here… I wrote several books while “babysitting” with two children. It isn’t easy, but can be done. And the children likely won’t be much more warped than they would have been otherwise.
There is a way to do it – kids and writing. Haha – not much more warped. I think by writing – or reading – we make a fine example for our kids and grandkids.